Parenting is always an exciting adventure–
Some days it is more so than not, and I do mean that in the most positive way!
Today was one of those days–
A certain one of our daughters who has been loving on a friend for the last 6 months, helping her, encouraging her,
supporting her and praying for her.
Today this daughter who does not really care to see others in pain or talk about personal things, who does not like the sight of blood and would rather not be in a hospital if it can be avoided….
Today this daughter went to a 6 hour long birthing class. To help this friend, to extend herself beyond her comfort zone to bless one who is very alone, who has some hard times coming down the road and will need a hand to help her over the bumps and to stay on the road safely.
All in the name of Jesus and for the sake of the Gospel —
This was an exciting day in parenting — And I am blessed to see a daughter sacrifice some of her life for the love of another —
p.s. — She texted me from the class saying that a woman was going on about how she birthed THREE children all naturally…….. and then Annie added, “Don’t worry. I am not impressed!” HA HA — she was thinking of me, having birthed six children, two at home — but she forgot that when I tell about my birth stories I always say that just when it was time to push our babies out I was ALWAYS asking my husband if I should take some drugs! I guess you could say I was just one step away each time from un-natural births! :) It’s all good!
The above pictures represent a big part of our life with children which goes beyond the children we have given birth to. In the upper picture is a picture of Miss S and Mr A, Miss S trying to love both him and her doll as her nurturing spirit runs deep and overflows daily. Precious, precious children. The second picture is one of our favorites and one that our Social Workers would love to use as a poster for Foster Care. Our family fondly calls it “The Princess and the Fisherman”. That little Miss S, who loves to be either a princess, a ballerina, or recently a doctor but ALWAYS a mommy has wound her way into that fisherman’s heart, and it is a beautiful site to behold! She was a princess on the day that picture was taken.
Another reason that I took off the last year from blogging would be that we had another daughter become engaged and married. This is Thanksgiving night at our home, where the house is filled with lots of people, family or friends. Was we prepared to pray we all were in a circle taking turns saying what we were thankful for. When it was Justin’s turn he spoke about Mandy and then dropped to his knee and proposed. I was stunned but the Fisherman knew what was coming and wanted me to be surprised. This engagement was the response to lots of prayers and a testimony to God working in both of their lives. We are thankful. The wedding plans began immediately as they set the date for April. our family is not one to have long engagements as we feel if you feel led to get married…. then GET married!
This is a picture of Jeni a few months later — you can kind of see that she is pregnant!
Thanksgiving weekend we had a family dinner and at the end Jeni said that she needed to share something with the family. After a couple of years of desiring a baby and knowing it had been a rough fall I listened with a heavy heart — she started by saying that they were going in for an ultrasound but they would be trying something different ( as opposed to the other ultrasounds that they had been doing ) because they were pregnant!! My heart burst with joy and I sobbed as I heard the news that I had been praying so hard for. What a delight to know that God had shown His love once again upon our family and honored us with a new life. Please know that our family believes in the complete sovereignty of God and if there had been no baby we would rejoice in life as God has willed and would also choose to look into adoption. These years were a time spent in me re-learning my doctrine on God’s sovereignty and find that He is beautiful and good in it all.
Wedding fun — I hope sometime to have some wedding pictures but for now I do not have any on my computer —
It was a glorious weekend celebrating the marriage of Justin and Mandy and adding Justin and his son Tanner to our family.
March and April were busy with wedding plans and parties and celebrating — It took us a week to recover from it all!
God is good, and He is kind and we are thankful,
After much time away for various reasons, all of which I will write about in the near future, I am slowly making my way back to blogging again. It seems there are some folks whom I love dearly who really do read and follow our lives here at Joyfulhouse……. sweet things! I also am using this blog to document our life so in light of that and the fact that I would not want it to seem we all disappeared for a year, we are foster parents and that could raise questions, I will resume — :)
Coming back to this blog will also have to be a slow re-entry as WordPress has changes in the last year. How unfair to me that they would change everything in such a short matter of time. I will learn what all these new and fancy buttons are for over time and hopefully not delete with a push of a button all of my work — been known to happen —
2013 — August —
Let’s just sum up the summer of 2013 as fun, and lots of hard work. I live in Door County remember and although we live in a tourist area, we work so that the tourists can enjoy their stay, and then we squeeze in some fun when we are able.
As foster parents we are always ready for THAT CALL, the one that says we are needed to take in another child, it is a phone call that we await as our hearts are drawn to this ministry of caring for children as the Lord brings them. Sometimes they are the unexpected, as was the one that we received last August. We knew there was a baby soon to be born in the fall but because we still had our Miss S we were sure we would not get the call for that baby as well. But, we did. We prayed and knew it was a yes to take this little guy, Mr. A, born 6 weeks early with some special needs. He was 2.5 hours away in a NICU by himself so we drove as often as we could to see him and bond with him the first few days. Soon we realized that he was being given some very strong meds and the nurses explains that he would need to be on them for 30 days for sure which was protocol for these babies. That was too much for my heart to bare as I held this little 4 lb. bundle who was suffering physically and sequestered away in a private dark room for many reasons. I prayed for healing, I asked my family to pray for him, I asked friends and our church to pray and literally 2 days later as I called to check on him, the nurses said, in a surprised tone, that his numbers were coming down and that they had never seen this before. Oh do I love when God works quickly! Remember, at this time we had been told that he would not be coming home to our home until October, maybe the first 2 weeks. This was Sept. 2, he was a week old and it was Monday. I went to see him and the nurses taught me to tube feed him and start on the bottle feeding and they again mentioned how surprised they were that he was doing so well — I was blessed with the opportunity to tell another nurse about God and how He answers prayers –. On Wednesday they called and said he was coming off the strong meds because he didn’t need them anymore! They had been slowly removing him from the meds as he quickly healed but it was progressing so fast that at this point the NICU doctor was astounded — and I got to tell her about prayer! On that Thursday they also told us to be ready to take him on Saturday! The problem was that we had been praying but not acting as in getting ready! Thank the Lord for daughters who helped me transform our bedroom nook into a nursery, buy a crib and all the items necessary for a baby, and a tiny baby at that! On Sunday Rick and I drove down to pick up our Mr. A. He was so tiny that the little car seat seemed huge compared to his little body. I remember The Fisherman and I looking at each other and I started to laugh — what was God doing? Did He not know we are in our 50’s? As we drove out we prayed, and felt the complete assurance from God that this was indeed what we were to be doing, and that yes, it would be hard in many ways but that our Big God would supply all of our needs.
He did! — He gave me the ability to feed Mr. A every 3 hours around the clock — 2 oz. at a time for the first 3 weeks. It would take him about 30-40 minutes to do the 2 oz. I would get back to sleep for 2 hours then need to get back up and feed him again. But such a joy! It became my delight, on most nights — to pray over him and bless him with God’s Words for his life. God met every need for us as a family to take care of this little man and boy did we fall in love, and Miss S did as well!
Mr. A is one of the reasons that I did not blog for a while — my life became very consumed with the needs of getting a tiny baby healthy and caring for him, Miss S and our family — And it was all good!. God is so awesome and this journey is so exciting and real — Oh how I love what He brings and how He takes us through the good and the very hard things, and it has been a year of culmination in my life — all for good as I will share.
That was last fall —
It is that time of year again but we do not have Mr. A anymore. He is in a very good place with family which is a true blessing and another answer to prayers. We miss him. It was last April when we said our goodbyes as we met with the family member, a beautiful kind woman, and passed him to her along with all of his belongings and special gifts from us. As we sat in the hotel room, Mi-mi, A, The Fisherman and myself, we gathered around him to lay hands on him and pray. We knew there was a good chance that we would never see him again on this earth. We prayed over his life, lifting him before the throne of God. As my big fisherman husband prayed he choked back sobs, joining the tears of our two beautiful daughters which broke my heart, his love and their love for this little boy pouring out in words over his life. We hugged him and said our goodbyes. As we were heading out of the hotel room I asked Mimi and A if this was too much for them, too hard to give up the foster children, even if it was to a very good place. I will never forget A turning to me with more than a little fire in her eyes and saying “Oh sure mom, make it easier on us and leave children without a good safe home to go to??” I knew then that even though we were all a wreck it would be ok eventually, God does heal hearts, He would help us through missing this precious little life in which we had seen miracles and experienced such joy.
He did help us, because He is faithful and He is kind.
Foster care is a wild ride — wouldn’t want life to be boring!
Thankful for the opportunity to love a little man, bless his life, teach him about Jesus and pray over him, change his diapers and spend time in the night with him showing him what love looks like!
Blessed as always because of Jesus
Yesterday was Melody’s birthday and we celebrated all day long — We actually started the celebration on Tuesday with a trip to Green Bay and dinner with Uncle Randy. We Johnsons love to celebrate and birthdays celebrations are often a week or more — seems kind of Biblical as God like to celebrate in weeks to!
Turning 15 is a big deal in our home and my husband allows the girls to wear make-up starting on this birthday. So…. off to Appleton we went to go to the Clinique counter and have a make-up stylist do her make-up and purchase her skin-care routine. Then, off to Sephora and Ulta to buy mascara and eyeshadows and some lip glosses. Those stores blow my mind with all the different kinds of makeups and brands and assortment of fixes for all of our “facial problems”. It was a bit overwhelming to see it all and I was heavily aware that the message being sent to us as women is that we are indeed not “perfect” and that we don’t need to worry, “they” have something to fix everything.
My problem with that message is that my husband and I see our girls as beautiful, delightfully so, completely so. That is one of the reasons Rick does not want his girls wearing make-up until they are fifteen. He wants them to be sure and confident of their beauty without make-up before they start the make-up routine. Even when they start using cosmetics he wants them to remain natural looking and not heavily made-up — easier said then done sometimes. As we gift Melody we want to make sure that she understands once again that her real beauty is in how God created her and her allowing Him to give her beauty from the inside out. Beautiful Spirit filled heart = beautiful joyful countenance. Every growing, maturing, changing as God does His work in her, in each one of us!
I remember when our first daughter was about 10 and she was sitting at the table for mealtime when the sun crossed her face and I could see that she was wearing my foundation. Being just a child it was streaked across her cheek and down her chin and I stood amazed that she had tried to apply make-up on at such a young age. She was innocently exploring what she saw me do when I was going to town or church and wanted to see how that would look on her. My amazement, unfortunately turned to anger and I told her to get a towel and wipe it all off of her face. I was upset because my daughter, thinking she was adding to her beauty as she had seen me do, was to me marring her precious face, a face which to me did not need anything to be more perfect. Her long blond hair and big blue eyes, creamy white complexion and her sweet innocence did not need one bit of help to be more beautiful to my eyes and that is what stirred up such strong emotion in my heart. I wish I would have handled it better but I reacted and did not take the time to use this experience to teach the deep lesson of beauty to one so tender. She was my first experience with a daughter and God graciously allowed us four more! These beautiful daughters amaze their father and I, over and over again, as they go through the teen years and into full womanhood and their beauty grows each year. What a joy!
Make-up is fun and they all enjoy wearing it — but their natural beauty is most precious as it comes from their hearts!
So here we are with our baby — wearing make-up, and pre-paring to start drivers ed next — fifteen and fabulous!
Blessed to be a mother of daughters
Blessed to be married to a strong man who is a good father to his five daughters!
How time flies when you are having fun and she has been a fun and wonderful daughter.
This has been a great year for Melody as she has excelled in school, her friendships, helping with foster children, working for our rental business, her violin and most importantly her walk with God.
We love her laugh and her humor, her way of thinking and often taking things to a deeper level in school and other daily discussions. She is a young lady and growing in all of her beauty and we are delighted that God gave her to us!